The Traditional Christmas Message

Hey, i thought it would be slightly rude of me not to wish anyone reading this a merry Christmas. I had been meaning to do it before now but you know how hectic things get this time of year. Speaking of which, i hope you have all done your shopping and got the boxes all wrapped up nicely. I'd like to add that i hope your better at wrapping things up than myself, i can never seem to get the ends all tucked in neatly. I found it was especially hard to wrap up spherical objects (if the world was flat it would have been a hell of a lot easier to wrap up) damn globe!
I won't even bother to mention my troubles with the cellotape, I'm sure you could imagine. Yeah it would definitely seem that not to great in the wrapping department, maybe next year ill put everything in big pretty bags instead. That would save time as well as effort.
Well it's safe to say that i can't help you with any wrapping problems you may be having, although...... if making a Christmas chicken out of a towel was more your issue then that i might just be able to swing!



Maybe not the healthiest looking chicken, but it definitely came out looking better than my one! Well that was random but i hope you still gave it a ruddy good go!

On more of a serious note, December may be the month where more people enjoy themselves, however it is also the month where more people get depressed as well. As much as i hate to cast a black rain cloud over any ones parade, it's a fact that the suicide count is much higher in December than any other time of the year. I say this because i want to make sure that none of my readers are going to be increasing that count this year (should probably add any year) due to the fact that they have split up with their partners.
I'm sure that feelings and emotions are all over the place, especially with people being overly nice to one another...more than usual. But the pain your experiencing now can only suggest (and excuse me for stating the obvious) that your still alive! By even thinking about suicide you'll only be quitting on yourself and giving up. Life is precious, and I'm sure it was given to each of us for a reason. I think those reasons may be different for each of us in a way. However i think that it's safe to say that we were not given life to simply throw it away when things get tough.
What ever your problems may be it's not a sensible reason to give up your life over. If you are thinking along these lines then you need professional help. I'd like to mention that i have no qualifications in that area so please don't message me with emails of suicide. In my opinion problems were put before us in order to help us learn how to overcome them, i guess life would be boring if everything worked out the way we wanted don't ya think?
It's your task to find a way to overcome the problems your faced with. And if it turns out you might need a little help then ill always be here, I'm sure we can work through them together.

Well that pretty much all i wanted to say. I'm sure i don't need to tell you that Christmas is suppose to be an occasion for family so i urge you NOT to spend it by yourself!
Oh and if your really proud of the way your towel chicken turned out and feel the urge to send in your pics, then i guess it's a little weird but acceptable. I'll even try to post them all for the whole world to see! Your chicken will be famous... how proud would that make you!

Merry Xmas and happy new year to all. Hopefully 2010 will be your year for happiness.

Any problems just send me a message
Dinkmon360@hotmail.com

Smiling for ya

Dink.

Relationship Quotes for Your Enjoyment

Hey all, going for something completely different today. Instead of a how to do this and that post i thought it would be nice to take some time out and see what relationships and love mean to other people. Some of these are pretty out dated so i don't expect you to use them (unless rehursing for a 1940's love performance). These quotes are not my own but i thought that some of you might enjoy them, hense why their here. One of my personal favourites is the 2nd one down, Mainly because I'm the guy who's usually stuck taking the bus! Hope you enjoy.

Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it. In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note:

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."-Oprah Winfrey

"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." -Anthony Robbins

"Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same." -Flavia Weedn

"The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifted their relationship with time." – Caroline Myss

"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." – Mark Twain

"Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with" ~ Gillian Anderson

"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." – Aristotle

"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." – Helen Keller

"Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl - no superior alternative has yet been found." – Winston Churchill

"It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations." – Kahlin Gibran

"To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person." – Eric Fromm

"Man is a knot into which relationships are tied." ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

"You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete." ~ Keith Sweat

"Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others." ~ Stephen R. Covey

"Love doesn't just sit there like a stone; it has to be made - like bread, remade all the time, made new." – Ursula LeGuin

"Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it's really no fun lying to 'em anymore." -Norm from Cheers

Why A Woman Leaves Her Man

Hey all, It's been a while since my last post so i thought id keep you updated by adding something fresh in. As the title suggests were going to take a brief look at a few of the reasons as to why women leave their men. If you haven't quite pieced it together yet, this post is mainly for the struggling guys out there. Although if you are reading this and don't happen to have a set of short and curleys then feel welcome to read on, maybe you could maybe you could agree with what I'm saying and list a few more reason to push us guys into the right direction.

Now i don't claim to know everything about how a women feels, I'm just as clueless as you. In my eyes, if a women was an object I'd have her down as a rubix cube. I don't mean that their all made of plastic (just the filthy rich ones!) i simply mean that they can be so damn complex! And just in case there are ladies reading this we had better add that their so pretty and neat once we have figured them out.
But seriously, the way a women thinks can be a lot more different to the way a man thinks. They are more sensitive on a far greater level than what we are. For instance, when we get a hair cut we do not expect to get a sweet comment of how neat and tidy it looks, it is simply the process of cutting overgrown hair.... like trimming a bush. Although on the other hand if you fail to comment on a women's hair cut/style then all you can expect for dinner is cheese on toast! and as nice as cheese on toast is, it still makes a pretty boring dish. So the bottom line of this introduction is.... COMMENT ON YOUR PARTNERS HAIR!

Now we should really crack on and get down to the real reasons as to why women leave their men.

Women leave for completely different reasons, they will always be faithful and loyal to their man up until the very end. This means that you have done something wrong. Now don't take offence, maybe you were not aware that you done something wrong, after all women are very complicated. Now this specific reason does not have to be major. It could be the slightest thing that you wouldn't even think to acknowledge.
The bottom line is that women want respect. Now i don't mean they expect a parade for washing the dishes. But more than anything they just want to feel appreciated for everything that they do. And since thank you is hardly a big effort to say, next time they stick that little note on your lunch box just before you go work you should really try using the thank you phrase.

When you fail to show some appreciation to your women for all the little things she does she will realize. This is when she will start to feel bored around the home all due to the neglection that she has been receiving from you. It's right about this point when her mind starts to wonders and starts to explore exciting fantasies of a life that you just can't seem to commit to.

And I'm sure you know what comes next? Well you know that crafty work friend of hers, the one that's conveniently single, the guy that you never really have trusted. This is the perfect time for him to make his foul swoop. Now this may not quite be hitting the nail on the head but for many break ups this ass is the main reason!

This is his master plan

• He starts off being the friend to the women, just simple chit chat at first. Nothing to fancy, just a friend.
• Then he lends that sympathetic ear and listens to the women as she complains about all the problems she has with her man at home. The crafty friend will kind of twist her mind about this re enforcing her feelings of being unappreciated. The conversation turns really ugly when he raises the subject of how ungrateful her mas is.
• Soon enough the cunning man makes his move and showers the women will all the attention and appreciation that she does not get at home. He makes her feel like a princess. At this point the women overwhelmed with all praise and attention she is now receiving that she can no longer wait for the next time she sees this guy at work.
• Then finally Bang! before you even realize whats going on, she's got herself a new man in her life. which leaves you single

Now this is just one case scenario. A case that unfortunately happens everyday to some poor man. Maybe this could have been prevented if her man just let her know every once in a while that he really did appreciate all the little things that she done for him.

Lets look at another reason. Now i know that the lack of trust is a very common reason for break ups. This one really is an argument starter. As most of you know that when your in the heat of an argument, things can be said... or screamed that neither of you actually meant. But because your in this argument you seem to take everything to heart.

Now the key for someone in your position is to obviously think about what your next sentence is going to be. The last thing you want is to make the argument ten times worse by letting slip something that you didn't actually mean. And as well as yourself, your partner will more than likely say some things that she doesn't really mean, and the trick for that one is not really to pay no attention ( ironically that is a reason as to what got you in this argument in the first place) but more to take no offence. Just try to let it roll off, like water on a ducks back. You could even just simply agree with what she is saying regardless of whether it's true or not. If you do find yourself in such a position then it might not be to late to save what you have by simply agreeing to what she is saying like " yeah i am an asshole and I'm sorry" Now you don't have to use foul language in your version but by making yourself look as low as you can get shows you are admitting to your faults.

Now i think i have gone way off track on that last bit so going back to trust being a major break up issue. You should really look at your evidence as to why you do not trust them. What reasons do you have? Many break ups occur out of the lack of trust even when there is no real reason behind it. The way to overcome this is to just simply trust her! If you have no evidence then you have no reason to distrust her. Make the time to just sit down and talk to one another about her day so you can fill in the blanks. She is more likely to open up to you if she feels that you want to talk to her rather than you demanding information of where she been and who's she seen as well as the rest of the third degree. You'll both feel a lot happier and eventually there will be a sort of natural bond between the two of you.

Well to sum up in a quick paragraph of what we have discussed just in case you need refreshing...... or for those of you that have cheated and just scrolled to the bottom of this post. The main things to look out for to avoid the troubles of your women leaving you is to;-

• Appreciate some of the smaller things she does and show her that they do not go unnoticed.
• Make sure you trust your partner! All relationships are initially built on a sense of trust. You should never neglect or lose that trust or things will turn bad.
• Upon arguments, try not to take all of it to heart as many things what she says she doesn't actually mean. With that said it is important that you think about what you say before yo actually say it.
• Oh and lastly watch out for that crafty work friend of hers, you could be right to not trust him!

Well i know that some of that was a bit of a muddle to get through as idea's of what to write were popping up all over the place. I hope that you were able to make some sense of it and to put some of the ideas given into practice to maintain and sort out your relationship.

And to any ladies reading this, I'm not saying you are all the same type who would go off with that crafty work friend. I'm just simply saying that some of you might. I would to commend those of you who personally wouldn't do that sort of thing and who would stick to their code of honour...(yeah that was smooth).

If anyone does have any questions about anything, or would like to chat then just simply send me an email on the address below.

Dinkmon360@hotmail.com

Will always be there to help my friends

Dink