Now i don't claim to know everything about how a women feels, I'm just as clueless as you. In my eyes, if a women was an object I'd have her down as a rubix cube. I don't mean that their all made of plastic (just the filthy rich ones!) i simply mean that they can be so damn complex! And just in case there are ladies reading this we had better add that their so pretty and neat once we have figured them out.
But seriously, the way a women thinks can be a lot more different to the way a man thinks. They are more sensitive on a far greater level than what we are. For instance, when we get a hair cut we do not expect to get a sweet comment of how neat and tidy it looks, it is simply the process of cutting overgrown hair.... like trimming a bush. Although on the other hand if you fail to comment on a women's hair cut/style then all you can expect for dinner is cheese on toast! and as nice as cheese on toast is, it still makes a pretty boring dish. So the bottom line of this introduction is.... COMMENT ON YOUR PARTNERS HAIR!
Now we should really crack on and get down to the real reasons as to why women leave their men.
Women leave for completely different reasons, they will always be faithful and loyal to their man up until the very end. This means that you have done something wrong. Now don't take offence, maybe you were not aware that you done something wrong, after all women are very complicated. Now this specific reason does not have to be major. It could be the slightest thing that you wouldn't even think to acknowledge.
The bottom line is that women want respect. Now i don't mean they expect a parade for washing the dishes. But more than anything they just want to feel appreciated for everything that they do. And since thank you is hardly a big effort to say, next time they stick that little note on your lunch box just before you go work you should really try using the thank you phrase.
When you fail to show some appreciation to your women for all the little things she does she will realize. This is when she will start to feel bored around the home all due to the neglection that she has been receiving from you. It's right about this point when her mind starts to wonders and starts to explore exciting fantasies of a life that you just can't seem to commit to.
And I'm sure you know what comes next? Well you know that crafty work friend of hers, the one that's conveniently single, the guy that you never really have trusted. This is the perfect time for him to make his foul swoop. Now this may not quite be hitting the nail on the head but for many break ups this ass is the main reason!
This is his master plan
- He starts off being the friend to the women, just simple chit chat at first. Nothing to fancy, just a friend.
- Then he lends that sympathetic ear and listens to the women as she complains about all the problems she has with her man at home. The crafty friend will kind of twist her mind about this re enforcing her feelings of being unappreciated. The conversation turns really ugly when he raises the subject of how ungrateful her mas is.
- Soon enough the cunning man makes his move and showers the women will all the attention and appreciation that she does not get at home. He makes her feel like a princess. At this point the women overwhelmed with all praise and attention she is now receiving that she can no longer wait for the next time she sees this guy at work.
- Then finally Bang! before you even realize whats going on, she's got herself a new man in her life. which leaves you single
Now this is just one case scenario. A case that unfortunately happens everyday to some poor man. Maybe this could have been prevented if her man just let her know every once in a while that he really did appreciate all the little things that she done for him.
Lets look at another reason. Now i know that the lack of trust is a very common reason for break ups. This one really is an argument starter. As most of you know that when your in the heat of an argument, things can be said... or screamed that neither of you actually meant. But because your in this argument you seem to take everything to heart.
Now the key for someone in your position is to obviously think about what your next sentence is going to be. The last thing you want is to make the argument ten times worse by letting slip something that you didn't actually mean. And as well as yourself, your partner will more than likely say some things that she doesn't really mean, and the trick for that one is not really to pay no attention ( ironically that is a reason as to what got you in this argument in the first place) but more to take no offence. Just try to let it roll off, like water on a ducks back. You could even just simply agree with what she is saying regardless of whether it's true or not. If you do find yourself in such a position then it might not be to late to save what you have by simply agreeing to what she is saying like " yeah i am an asshole and I'm sorry" Now you don't have to use foul language in your version but by making yourself look as low as you can get shows you are admitting to your faults.
Now i think i have gone way off track on that last bit so going back to trust being a major break up issue. You should really look at your evidence as to why you do not trust them. What reasons do you have? Many break ups occur out of the lack of trust even when there is no real reason behind it. The way to overcome this is to just simply trust her! If you have no evidence then you have no reason to distrust her. Make the time to just sit down and talk to one another about her day so you can fill in the blanks. She is more likely to open up to you if she feels that you want to talk to her rather than you demanding information of where she been and who's she seen as well as the rest of the third degree. You'll both feel a lot happier and eventually there will be a sort of natural bond between the two of you.
Well to sum up in a quick paragraph of what we have discussed just in case you need refreshing...... or for those of you that have cheated and just scrolled to the bottom of this post. The main things to look out for to avoid the troubles of your women leaving you is to;-- Appreciate some of the smaller things she does and show her that they do not go unnoticed.
- Make sure you trust your partner! All relationships are initially built on a sense of trust. You should never neglect or lose that trust or things will turn bad.
- Upon arguments, try not to take all of it to heart as many things what she says she doesn't actually mean. With that said it is important that you think about what you say before yo actually say it.
- Oh and lastly watch out for that crafty work friend of hers, you could be right to not trust him!
Well i know that some of that was a bit of a muddle to get through as idea's of what to write were popping up all over the place. I hope that you were able to make some sense of it and to put some of the ideas given into practice to maintain and sort out your relationship.
And to any ladies reading this, I'm not saying you are all the same type who would go off with that crafty work friend. I'm just simply saying that some of you might. I would to commend those of you who personally wouldn't do that sort of thing and who would stick to their code of honour...(yeah that was smooth).
If anyone does have any questions about anything, or would like to chat then just simply send me an email on the address below.
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