Different Stages Of A Relationship

Many people, never actually think ahead when considering the different stages of a relationship. We are all just to familiar with the present and whats going on around us. If this happens to be the case, then thinking whats next to come in your relationship is probably the last thing on your mind right?... Well let us joy ride in Dr. Who's Tardis for just a moment so we can actually see whats to come around that joyful corner of love....

If your sat there thinking "ummm... hello ... Dink... This is the Get Your Ex Back blog.... I'M NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!" then your not alone, cos i also thought that. Snappsies.... But since the whole idea of this article is to focus on thinking towards the future as such perhaps you'd like bookmark this page so that we can return to it once we have successfully got you back together with your Ex.

Now I'm just going to go through the basic stages of a relationship and touch upon the points where it can all go wrong. Now i understand that everybodys different and some stages may not even apply to you. But chances are that some of what your abouts to read will be relevant to you and hopefully should be of some use. Please don't get discouraged by reading this, the whole point of this article is so we can try to correct these stages before they even happen. After all.... getting your heart broken is about as much fun as stepping in a deep puddle, so lets try to avoid it altogether.

Lets go to the First Stage... If you've just started a new relationship or happened to get back with your Ex after a break up then this is where you should be now. It's commonly known as the HONEYMOON PERIOD. It's the most exciting because everything is fun and fresh and is all new to you and your partner. Your allowed to go on fancy dates all dressed up in your dads shirt.... providing your male..... If you don't happen to be male.... then I'd strictly advise NOT dressing in dads shirt... nothing good will come of it!
And no matter where you are, your both on your best politest behaviour since you want to impress the other person. All of their flaws are overlooked, in fact sometimes you may even find them cute. Oh yes, everything is as grand as it could be, everything is such an adventure to the both of you. Like a Summer walk in a park full of daisies.

As we move on to the Second Stage, this is where it could make or break a relationship, the penny could land either way. Many couples crumble in this stage and things sadly start to fall apart. This stage is whats known as the POWER STRUGGLE stage. All the freshness from your relationship starts to wear off. The fun and excitement has seemed to have disappeared, like a grey rain cloud hovering over that picnic you had nicely set out not so long ago. This usually happens sometime between 6 months and a year of the relationship and finding your way off that rocky road can be a difficult struggle indeed.
Both of you want to have your needs met, and starting to notice where the other person is failing to do that. Negative personalities start to show and suddenly your love and lust for one another has dropped like a kite with no wind. If this seems familiar... don't panic, simply take a step back and view the situation in a different light. It's highly probable that the flaws your finding in your partner are also flaws that you are guilty of yourself.

If you can manage to get through this stage, then your relationship has a much better chance of surviving. There will be sunshine and daffodils once more. Unfortunately many couples try to change their partner in this second stage and that's where things start to fall apart and ultimately leads to break ups. The key to surviving this stage to keep the honest communications flowing. Try to be understanding, realize the fact that you also have irritating flaws. After all, no one is perfect, not even someone as awesome as me!

This is where you can continue to the Third Stage, where you hopefully should be understand that you can't change your partner and you stop trying to do so... Now throw away that hypnosis CD!!! If you got to this stage by following the previous steps then have a cookie and give yourself a pat on the back, you deserve it! Don't stand there like a deer in the head lights too long, we've
got a little further to go.

For this stage you will have to open your mind a little and really learn how to be content and at peace with your partner. Find what it is that they have to offer and try to take care of yourself in the process. If the Power Struggle stage ended bad for you then this is likely to be the place where the whole relationship is to crash and burn. Since that's not the route we want to be taking then focus a little more on the whole communication process...... make sure it's honest!

Now this Third Stage is the Stage Of Commitment. And it's where you've now realized you cannot change your partner but despite all that you still struggle hard and make it work! You both know you want to be together. For you see now you should be at a place where you no longer need all the flowers and romantic walks in the park ( you should still want them, but not necessarily need them ). But just the company of the other person is more than enough to make your relationship flourish. If this is pretty much the case in your situation then i think it's high time to move on and start a new partnership formed on the love in which you share for each other.

Many couples bounce back and forth between stages 1 and 2 before actually getting to that Stage Of Commitment. But like i said, no ones perfect and long as you get to that happier place in the end then no more can be expected of you. Always be free to take a moment to think how you can make this work and be sure to give twice as much as what you take in return. By doing this mixed in with a little bit of your own initiative then I'm sure you'll be fine.

Well i hope that this article was of some help to you and that you managed to take something from it. If nothing else, at least you a little more wiser on what the basic stages to a relationship are hopefully found some useful ideas on how to get through them stages until you are both content and happy with one another.

Got any questions? perhaps you'd just like to talk? feel free to drop me an email whenever you like. I'm always here to help
Dinkmon360@hotmail.com

Will keep smiling for ya
Dink